Ok so I've made it through the first trimester. The nausea has subsided. Now the other stuff begins.
Where do I put the crib, toys, clothes, changing table, all the stuff that comes with a baby?? When do I contact the pediatrician? When do I take baby classes? How much maternity leave do I take? How much can I afford to take? When do I register at the hospital? Why does this trimester have to be so emotional? Do I go camping with friends in the heat of summer when it does not sound appealing at all? Is it ok to use the pregnancy to bow out? Do I really want people to answer these questions?
I have all these helpful books that have been recommended that I have no real interest in reading. I know they probably have great information and tips but my attention span is not there.
I've had people say, you've worked with kids so long this should be a walk in the park. The difference is, I've never been pregnant and had to answer these questions. I get them later!
4 comments:
Talk to your obgyn about a pediatrician. I had no idea about baby anything. After Sarah was born, Dr. Jan sat in my room for a long time and asked if I had any questions. No. I had no idea what questions to ask. so she filled me in and was very helpful! Forget the books.
Use the pregnancy--use it mercilessly! You've waited for it for a long time! Well, don't use it with your sweet husband ! Arrange your stuff how you like it. don't go hogwild ripping tags off tiny baby clothes that might not fit your baby.
That's all the info I'm going to share now! Aren't you glad????
Of course you wanted my expert opinion/answers. I'm a librarian. I was born to answer questions! And if I don't know the answers, sometimes I make them up :)
Can I share one tidbit? RELAX and don't worry...no one will let you forget any of the important overwhelming stuff when the time comes. Cinnabun will have a crib & clothes, you will be registered at the hospital, you'll go camping or you won't and all those things will come in their time. In the meantime, take some time to relax and "just be pregnant." It's such a VERY magical, miraculous time and it comes along so few times in your life (even from the perspective of one who has had many children!). Slow down, close your eyes, rest for a moment and enjoy the wonder that is pregnancy. You won't regret those moments--really! (And--were I a betting woman--I'd wager that you'll be more ready to handle the overwhelming stuff! ONE question at a time, of course!) Love you, lady!
Thank you both for your comments. Yesterday was just one of those days, and thankfully it's passed. Your comments made me both laugh and tear up! Of course that's expected in my condition.
I'm lucky to have friends for support and a husband who can deal with all I'm throwing at him right now. HEHE!!
Much Love!!
STOP!!! Take a deep breath and try to enjoy this miracle inside of you...NONE of the other stuff is as important as your baby & you. Just focus on that, and the rest will sort itself out . Sending you hugs... :)
Mara
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